Pearls of Wisdom


Hi my name's Pearl!

Ask me anything
excellent-show-of-patience:

1) Neal, a legal adult (approximately 22-23), took advantage of a teenage (and underage) orphan’s socially, psychologically and financially unstable and impossible situation by coercing her into a date with him (which initially implied the involvement of alcohol even if it actually ended up being about further corrupting her by teaching her how to illegally open the locks and break into private territory of it’s owners. Hence their attendance of amusement park where the narrative vaguely incorporated a distinct reference to an easily recognizable scene from “On the Waterfront” where a male character - as far as I recall, please correct me if I’m getting the details inaccurately -  picks up female character’s glove symbolizing a subsequent con/deception and betrayal) by threatening to expose her as a car thief while being one himself. And not out of necessity or for the sake of survival but because he was not inclined to maintain a low paying but stable job he had no excuse to not fare with, as a grown white man in First World country. Instead he opted for stealing an expensive property because a person in charge of it was - it being a direct quote - “a drunk” and the watches were “practically asking to be taken” (which equates with a textbook victim blaming because Neal blames another, unknowing person for his criminality). 2) Eventually, Neal uses said watches and the fact of being rightly wanted for robbery as an excuse to break up with his minor girlfriend after having wholeheartedly promised her to make an effort to establish a healthier life style in order for them both to lead a more well adjusted life. While Emma was entirely emotionally dependent on him both due to her age and Neal’s position of social power in this relationship (again, legal adult who compromised his own employment due to his blatant incompetence and corruptness versus a socially marginalized and disadvantageous teenager who had to resort to stealing for living). Having absorbed a large chunk of his father’s misogyny Neal denies his female partner any agency in this relationship by attempting to take a decision that he KNOWS is going to negatively affect said partner emotionally (direct reference to Rumple dismissing Milah’s overt pleas to start all over and telling her in no uncertain terms to repress her depression and misery because it was not convenient for him to acknowledge his partner’s needs and work towards endorsing them). Only to - seconds later - agree to accept Emma’s assistance in risking herself on behalf of his own safety and because she was desperate to preserve this relationship (another instance of emotional manipulation on Neal’s part. Either he should have followed through with the break up/cowardly heading to Canada plan if he was legitimately serious about it and didn’t use it to blackmail Emma or not endorse his minor girlfriend’s idea of placing herself in danger. Because her emotional, trust and abandonment issues factored in her decision to secure this romance even if it meant sabotaging her own well being). 3) Emotionally manipulated Emma a decade later - after framing her minor self for his crime but not before inadvertently impregnating her (which clearly highlights adult Neal’s decidedly irresponsible and careless approach towards his sexual activities with teenagers) - into recognizing the validity of his sperm donation upon learning about Henry’s existence because EMMA was coerced by his father into tracking him down in NY without knowing about his true identity. Neal then proceeded to dismiss Emma’s authority in Henry’s life and assert that he now gets to take decisions despite eleven years of absence. While aggressively accusing Emma in not introducing Henry to all the details even though he was the one who concealed crucial facts from Emma and created this toxic situation in the first place (behavior that qualifies as manipulation and blackmail). Leaving Emma no choice other than to withhold the particulars of her highly traumatic relationship with him in order to secure her own and Henry’s psychological comfort. By framing Emma for his crime, leaving her without any support system (hence her having to put a baby up for adoption and said baby being raised by a political criminal & rapist and Emma’s family’s persecutor who brainwashed him for his entire life) Neal revoked any entitlement to recognition in either Emma’s life or in whatever information she chooses to reveal to Henry about their relationship or his sperm donor status. 
His own unsettling, repulsive, impulsive and cowardly behaviors led to his lack of knowledge about Henry and essentially a lack of parental rights to the boy which he had no valid reason to demand from Emma by means of verbal abuse AND harassment (rights that Emma had earned back and gradually reclaimed by proving to be a competent guardian for the boy as opposed to his abusive adoptive mother, Regina). Hence another reference to Neal’s father’s boldly misogynistic mindset: Rumple scolded Milah on not efficiently fulfilling her parental responsibilities while failing that of his in considerably worse and more despicable ways. 4) Emotionally manipulated Emma in order to shame her for reasonably choosing to distance Henry from him in the second half of season 3 (because it was needed for Henry’s safety) by stating that he “had no choice”. Meaning, no choice other than to set her up for months in jail and subject her to a decade of psychological anguish/add up to her already existing emotional and psychological issues Neal was entirely aware of. Both in the light of her orphanhood and based on his personal experience. 
"No choice" statement was a yet another form of emotional manipulation seeing as Neal, as is well known, had plenty of them. One of which could have included declining any offers on part of an evidently untrustworthy, shady and unreliable guardian angel aka Pinocchio aka a character infamous for his proneness to selfishness and deception. With whom Neal - yet again - felt entitled to decide the fate of a person he was in established romantic relationship with (as well as that of her abused, persecuted, oppressed, brainwashed and cursed family) and outline the direction of her destiny. Because Neal was, at that point, in a position of social, financial and authoritative advantage over minor Emma who had just gotten him, a legal adult, out of the trouble with the law while he reacquired the stolen property. Money equivalent of which Neal irrationally trusted a random stranger to transfer to Emma’s bank account in order to ease his own consciousness and - again, direct quote - "move on" (emotional manipulation and attempt to "buy" the forgiveness of a romantic partner whom he had deceived and wronged instead of facing them and constructively working through the issue like two equals). 
Thus, again, denying his female partner any agency and control in a relationship just like his father consistently denied it to his mother (before committing an act of ultimate domestic violence against Milah when Rumple’s ego was damaged and when, much like his son Neal, he felt entitled to scrutinize a woman for not handling her parental duties appropriately while not managing to effectively fulfill that of his even remotely). Instead of following through with their mutual plan, discussing the situation with Emma and assisting her in traveling to Storybrooke, residents and inhabitants of which Neal was closely familiar with as opposed to her Neal takes decision in regards to Emma’s fate, emotional well being, mental health, mission, etc on his own because he has a social and psychological power in their affair. Decade later uses it as a form of emotional blackmail (hence the misleading “I had no choice” claim) in order to, again, belittle Emma’s authority as Henry’s mother and whitewash his actions. 5) On top of repeatedly demonstrated verbally abusive tendencies (i.e accusing Emma in bringing his father to NY even though she was threatened and blackmailed by said father; berating Emma when she had legitimate concerns about Tamara by insinuating she was merely jealous that his unquestionably remarkable self was not as psychologically traumatized as she was to be able to get involved with someone and establish a long term commitment which Emma couldn’t do due to emotional issues inflicted on her by Neal; berating Emma as a mother to a kid for whom he was no more than a sperm donor yet felt falsely entitled to, it happening in front of Henry) Neal is the only character who canonically harassed Emma when it comes to their romantic encounters. Because he continually blackmailed her and took advantage of her in order to prolong this relationship on his terms & profit from Emma’s unswerving loyalty to him which was a result of her underlying abandonment issues he was fully aware of and used to his benefit when it was convenient to him.

excellent-show-of-patience:

1) Neal, a legal adult (approximately 22-23), took advantage of a teenage (and underage) orphan’s socially, psychologically and financially unstable and impossible situation by coercing her into a date with him (which initially implied the involvement of alcohol even if it actually ended up being about further corrupting her by teaching her how to illegally open the locks and break into private territory of it’s owners. Hence their attendance of amusement park where the narrative vaguely incorporated a distinct reference to an easily recognizable scene from “On the Waterfront” where a male character - as far as I recall, please correct me if I’m getting the details inaccurately -  picks up female character’s glove symbolizing a subsequent con/deception and betrayal) by threatening to expose her as a car thief while being one himself. And not out of necessity or for the sake of survival but because he was not inclined to maintain a low paying but stable job he had no excuse to not fare with, as a grown white man in First World country. Instead he opted for stealing an expensive property because a person in charge of it was - it being a direct quote - “a drunk” and the watches were “practically asking to be taken” (which equates with a textbook victim blaming because Neal blames another, unknowing person for his criminality).

2) Eventually, Neal uses said watches and the fact of being rightly wanted for robbery as an excuse to break up with his minor girlfriend after having wholeheartedly promised her to make an effort to establish a healthier life style in order for them both to lead a more well adjusted life. While Emma was entirely emotionally dependent on him both due to her age and Neal’s position of social power in this relationship (again, legal adult who compromised his own employment due to his blatant incompetence and corruptness versus a socially marginalized and disadvantageous teenager who had to resort to stealing for living).

Having absorbed a large chunk of his father’s misogyny Neal denies his female partner any agency in this relationship by attempting to take a decision that he KNOWS is going to negatively affect said partner emotionally (direct reference to Rumple dismissing Milah’s overt pleas to start all over and telling her in no uncertain terms to repress her depression and misery because it was not convenient for him to acknowledge his partner’s needs and work towards endorsing them). Only to - seconds later - agree to accept Emma’s assistance in risking herself on behalf of his own safety and because she was desperate to preserve this relationship (another instance of emotional manipulation on Neal’s part. Either he should have followed through with the break up/cowardly heading to Canada plan if he was legitimately serious about it and didn’t use it to blackmail Emma or not endorse his minor girlfriend’s idea of placing herself in danger. Because her emotional, trust and abandonment issues factored in her decision to secure this romance even if it meant sabotaging her own well being).
3) Emotionally manipulated Emma a decade later - after framing her minor self for his crime but not before inadvertently impregnating her (which clearly highlights adult Neal’s decidedly irresponsible and careless approach towards his sexual activities with teenagers) - into recognizing the validity of his sperm donation upon learning about Henry’s existence because EMMA was coerced by his father into tracking him down in NY without knowing about his true identity.
Neal then proceeded to dismiss Emma’s authority in Henry’s life and assert that he now gets to take decisions despite eleven years of absence. While aggressively accusing Emma in not introducing Henry to all the details even though he was the one who concealed crucial facts from Emma and created this toxic situation in the first place (behavior that qualifies as manipulation and blackmail). Leaving Emma no choice other than to withhold the particulars of her highly traumatic relationship with him in order to secure her own and Henry’s psychological comfort.
By framing Emma for his crime, leaving her without any support system (hence her having to put a baby up for adoption and said baby being raised by a political criminal & rapist and Emma’s family’s persecutor who brainwashed him for his entire life) Neal revoked any entitlement to recognition in either Emma’s life or in whatever information she chooses to reveal to Henry about their relationship or his sperm donor status.

His own unsettling, repulsive, impulsive and cowardly behaviors led to his lack of knowledge about Henry and essentially a lack of parental rights to the boy which he had no valid reason to demand from Emma by means of verbal abuse AND harassment (rights that Emma had earned back and gradually reclaimed by proving to be a competent guardian for the boy as opposed to his abusive adoptive mother, Regina). Hence another reference to Neal’s father’s boldly misogynistic mindset: Rumple scolded Milah on not efficiently fulfilling her parental responsibilities while failing that of his in considerably worse and more despicable ways.
4) Emotionally manipulated Emma in order to shame her for reasonably choosing to distance Henry from him in the second half of season 3 (because it was needed for Henry’s safety) by stating that he “had no choice”. Meaning, no choice other than to set her up for months in jail and subject her to a decade of psychological anguish/add up to her already existing emotional and psychological issues Neal was entirely aware of. Both in the light of her orphanhood and based on his personal experience.


"No choice" statement was a yet another form of emotional manipulation seeing as Neal, as is well known, had plenty of them. One of which could have included declining any offers on part of an evidently untrustworthy, shady and unreliable guardian angel aka Pinocchio aka a character infamous for his proneness to selfishness and deception. With whom Neal - yet again - felt entitled to decide the fate of a person he was in established romantic relationship with (as well as that of her abused, persecuted, oppressed, brainwashed and cursed family) and outline the direction of her destiny. Because Neal was, at that point, in a position of social, financial and authoritative advantage over minor Emma who had just gotten him, a legal adult, out of the trouble with the law while he reacquired the stolen property. Money equivalent of which Neal irrationally trusted a random stranger to transfer to Emma’s bank account in order to ease his own consciousness and - again, direct quote - "move on" (emotional manipulation and attempt to "buy" the forgiveness of a romantic partner whom he had deceived and wronged instead of facing them and constructively working through the issue like two equals).


Thus, again, denying his female partner any agency and control in a relationship just like his father consistently denied it to his mother (before committing an act of ultimate domestic violence against Milah when Rumple’s ego was damaged and when, much like his son Neal, he felt entitled to scrutinize a woman for not handling her parental duties appropriately while not managing to effectively fulfill that of his even remotely). Instead of following through with their mutual plan, discussing the situation with Emma and assisting her in traveling to Storybrooke, residents and inhabitants of which Neal was closely familiar with as opposed to her Neal takes decision in regards to Emma’s fate, emotional well being, mental health, mission, etc on his own because he has a social and psychological power in their affair. Decade later uses it as a form of emotional blackmail (hence the misleading “I had no choice” claim) in order to, again, belittle Emma’s authority as Henry’s mother and whitewash his actions.
5) On top of repeatedly demonstrated verbally abusive tendencies (i.e accusing Emma in bringing his father to NY even though she was threatened and blackmailed by said father; berating Emma when she had legitimate concerns about Tamara by insinuating she was merely jealous that his unquestionably remarkable self was not as psychologically traumatized as she was to be able to get involved with someone and establish a long term commitment which Emma couldn’t do due to emotional issues inflicted on her by Neal; berating Emma as a mother to a kid for whom he was no more than a sperm donor yet felt falsely entitled to, it happening in front of Henry) Neal is the only character who canonically harassed Emma when it comes to their romantic encounters. Because he continually blackmailed her and took advantage of her in order to prolong this relationship on his terms & profit from Emma’s unswerving loyalty to him which was a result of her underlying abandonment issues he was fully aware of and used to his benefit when it was convenient to him.

Source: confessuponatime

Anonymous said: You're being so ignorant with your tweets. Hobby Lobby is a company that isn't going to support something they do not believe in. They aren't saying for people to not use birth control or any types of birth control. They just don't want to be the ones allowing it through their insurance. The company is being bashed for doing what they believe in while ignorant people like you get upset about it. If you don't agree don't work for them. It's simple

hana-wa-ano-hi-mita:

slackmistress:

Point one:

Hobby Lobby is a corporation. Corporations get certain benefits that people don’t: tax breaks, protection from criminal charges being filed, etc.

If Hobby Lobby would like to be a PERSON WITH RELIGIOUS BELIEFS, then Hobby Lobby should not get the protection of a corporation.

Point two:

If Hobby Lobby had the courage of their religious convictions, they would not:

If you are a human in the United States, it should not be up to your boss to decide what medicine is appropriate for you to take. It should be up to your doctor. Yes, and insurance company could deny you, but YOUR BOSS SHOULD NOT HAVE ANY DECISIONS WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR HEALTH CARE.

Point three:

Hobby Lobby is totes cool with vasectomies and erectile dysfunction drugs.

Point four:

One of the points people up is that Hobby Lobby doesn’t want to cover the Morning After Pill because it’s abortion. Except that the Morning After Pill ISN’T ABORTION. The Morning After Pill delays or inhibits ovulation. IT PREVENTS PREGNANCY. This is science. But maybe you think gravity is a myth, too.

Point five:

Christian Scientists and Jehovah’s Witnesses traditionally do not believe in medicine. So I imagine you ‘re okay with a business run by someone who practices these faiths to not cover your mom’s chemo, or your diabetes medication, or a blood transfusion for your child.

Point six: (bonus round!)

I appreciate that you are so confident of your convictions that you are willing to put your name on your…oh wait. You’re anonymous.

#DrHobbyLobby prescribes taking up cross-stitch. May I recommend this one?

(image from YarnBombing.com)

Ho shit, dat smackdown tho.

Source: slackmistress

No, you can’t deny women their basic rights and pretend it’s about your ‘religious freedom.’ If you don’t like birth control, don’t use it. Religious freedom doesn’t mean you can force others to live by your own beliefs.

President Barack Obama

image

(via barackobama)

RELIGIOUS FREEDOM DOESN’T MEAN YOU CAN FORCE OTHERS TO LIVE BY YOUR OWN BELIEFS —THANKYOU: BBams.

(via arcanda)

Source: etoilesdelanuit

youseetherealme:

Captain swan anti parallels: Why we should love Hook.
[Part one]

Source: youseetherealme

happilycaptainswan:

captain—kitten:

"I offer my ship and my services."

She knew it was foolish to trust him. He was a pirate after all. 

But she did. 

She couldn’t explain it and didn’t particularly want to dwell on it, but she somehow knew he was her best bet. Her best chance to evading the Empire. And she knew he would keep his word and keep her safe.

He had proven himself over the last few months on the Hoth base, becoming a steady presence in the Alliance. He was always there, with a quip and a grin, sometimes a look that made her heart flutter in her chest. 

Stop it. 

He stood there waiting for her to respond, eyebrow cocked almost mockingly. She knew he half expected her to refuse.

"Well, Your Worshipfulness?"

She hated it when he called her that. Giving him her steeliest look, she straightened her shoulders, lifted her chin, stepped around him, and climbed the gangway into his ancient ship.

"Fine," she huffed. "Let’s see if this bucket of bolts can even get us past the blockade."

"As you wish," he grinned.

Happiest birthday to my darling the-lady-swan! LUH YOU BOO! <3

Source: captain--kitten

ted:

Comedian and journalist Stella Young is tired of people telling her she’s an “inspiration” just for getting up in the morning. In a hilarious, hard-hitting, and thought-provoking talk at TEDxSydney, she explains why.   

Watch the full talk here»

Source: ted

Tagged: emma swanouatthis is the gifset i wanted made when zelena was all'itll take away her magiceverything that makes her specialuh fuck noi love her magicits part of her and awesomebut its not what makes her specialshes special because she's emma swani fell in love with her character in season one when we didn't even know she had magicwhen she stood up to the mayor and cut down her treewhen she stood up to gold and saved ellas babywhen she hit hatter over the head with a telescopefuck i fell in love with her in the pilot when she smashed the guys face in to the dashboardactually it was probably a bit earlierwhen she was offended that he had screwed over his wifeEmma swans magic is not what makes her specialher being who she is enhances her magicbasically she has magic because shes special and shes not less when she doesn't have iti have a lot of feelings

Source: onceland

bookishandi:

jennyquantums:

themyskira:

Wonder Woman vol. 2 #210

              

WAIT, THIS DOESN’T SHOW JUST HOW AWESOME DIANA IS.

This is from ruckawriter's run on WW (the best ever, imho). Medusa turns one of Diana's employees into stone (Diana is a full-on ambassador as well as superhero) and then challenges Diana to a fight. Diana is skeptical, but Aphrodite pretty much says, “Listen, we're not gonna take this shit from Medusa, you gotta fight her.” So Diana shows up pretty ready, blindfold, armor, all that. But it turns out Medusa has manipulated the event to be televised, so that after she defeats Diana, she can look into the screen and turn all the people watching into stone. 

Just TAKE THIS SHIT IN FOR A HOT SECOND (all images courtesy of scans_daily)

Then the stuff above happens. YES, BITCHES, DIANA—WHO HAS RECENTLY HAD A SWORD RUN THROUGH ONE OF HER KIDNEYS— TAKES ONE OF THE SNAKES SHE CUT OFF MEDUSA’S HEAD WHILE BLINDFOLDED AND SQUIRTS THE POISON IN HER EYES SO SHE IS BLIND SO MEDUSA CAN’T FUCK WITH HER.

Why? BECAUSE SAVING AND AVENGING EVEN ONE MORTAL LIFE IS WORTH HER OWN GODDAMN VISION THAT’S WHY. 

But after that badass “Never?” THIS PHOTO SET LEAVES OUT THE BEST PART. WONDER WOMAN IMMEDIATELY CHOPS OFF MEDUSA’S HEAD. NO HESITATION. NO NEGOTIATION. NO DESTROYING A WHOLE CITY JUST TO BEAT HER UP A LITTLE MORE. CHOP AND DONE.

And then?

DROP THAT MIC, DI.

DROP IT LIKE THE MAGMA-HOT SHIT THAT IT IS. 

To Rucka’s credit, this wasn’t no false-ass sacrifice, either. She stays blind AND STILL SAVES EVERYONE’S ASSES.

How does she get her sight back? She does something for Athena and Athena grants her one boon. So what does our Diana do? Ask for her sight back?

NOPE. SHE ASKS FOR LIFE TO BE RETURNED TO A CHILD KILLED BY MEDUSA.

And Athena was like, “Shit, Wonder Woman, you’re better than all of us, I guess you can have your sight back, too.” And Diana’s pretty much like, “Fine, that’s cool I guess, I was still getting shit done without it.”

THIS IS WHY I HAVE A LOT OF GODDAMN FEELINGS ABOUT WONDER WOMAN.

Source: themyskira

When I spoke to Eddy and Adam, when I first started, we had discussed how this Hook would be.  I knew he was certainly more complicated than a black and white villain.  Part of what I like about the best villains in TV and film is when you feel sorry for them, and that makes you feel even worse for feeling guilty about wanting them to succeed, in some way.  When I first started, on the first episode, in particular, he was a product of circumstances, but in the first part of [Season 2], he definitely was out for himself and was willing to do quite nasty things for that.  He had a goal, and he had blinders on, for whatever he could do to achieve that goal.  He wanted to succeed.  So, I wanted people to feel bad for thinking that he was a guy that they’d like to hang out with, which I think makes a good villain.  At the end of the day, he’s a pirate, and a selfish pirate.  He’s somebody who’s lived for 300-odd years, just looking after number one.  That’s very difficult to break.  [x]

Source: apple-jack-daniels